My name is Sarah, a 32-year-old woman from Kampala, Uganda. Just a few months ago, my life looked perfect. My husband and I had been married for five years, and together we had built what I thought was a happy home.
We had two beautiful children, shared dreams, and laughed often. Life felt peaceful and full of love.
But everything started to change slowly. Small misunderstandings grew into big arguments. Things that once made us smile became the reason for endless fights.
I couldn’t understand what went wrong. The man who once looked at me with so much affection now seemed distant and easily irritated.
Before I knew it, we were fighting almost every day. It got to a point where a day without an argument felt strange.
I tried everything I could — marriage counseling, open talks, giving him space, even changing some of my habits. But nothing seemed to work. Each conversation turned into a new argument. The harder we tried to fix our relationship, the more broken it felt.
Our once warm home had turned cold. We were living under the same roof but felt like strangers. I cried many nights, wondering how something so beautiful could fall apart so quickly.
I began to fear that divorce was the only way out — but deep inside, I still loved him and wanted to save our marriage.
It wasn’t until I reached out to a close friend that things began to change. She introduced us to a local family counselor and advised us to attend a couples’ healing retreat organized by a local church. At first, my husband refused, but eventually, he agreed.
That decision saved our relationship. During the sessions, we were encouraged to talk about our pain, fears, and frustrations openly — without judgment.
We realized that most of our fights came from poor communication and stress over finances, not a lack of love. Slowly, we started understanding each other again.
It took patience, prayer, and effort, but our bond began to heal. My husband apologized for the times he made me feel unloved, and I also admitted my mistakes. We promised to start over and rebuild our marriage one step at a time.
Today, our home is not perfect, but it is peaceful. We have learned that marriage is not about never fighting — it’s about fighting for each other, not against each other.
To anyone going through a similar struggle: don’t give up too quickly. Love can survive the hardest storms if both partners are willing to fight for it.
A 32-year-old Kampala woman, Sarah, shares her emotional journey from a happy marriage to near separation — and how open communication, counseling, and faith helped her and her husband rebuild their love.
