For many, living abroad is the dream — new opportunities, higher income, and exciting experiences. But for Kenyan national Janet Bett, the reality of life overseas has been far from what she imagined.
Two years after moving to the United Kingdom, Janet revealed in a heartfelt social media post that she feels emotionally drained, physically unwell, and spiritually unfulfilled.
Her confession has since gone viral, sparking conversations about the hidden mental health struggles of Kenyans living in the diaspora.
“There’s a kind of emptiness, the yearning of being with your loved ones, but you can’t. I feel like I don’t know myself anymore,” Janet shared.
Janet explained that despite working hard to achieve her dream, the distance from family and familiar surroundings has left her lonely and isolated.
She described struggling with chronic migraines and physical numbness, which doctors have yet to explain, and believes these symptoms are tied to suppressed emotions and mental exhaustion.
“I have watched myself fade from the bubbly, cheerful extrovert to a silent introvert,” she admitted. “I lost my spark.”
She also emphasized the pressure to keep going, not just for herself, but for her family and siblings she supports financially.
A turning point came when Janet realized she needed to prioritize her own wellbeing. Quoting Proverbs 17:22, she said:
“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”
“Going abroad was brave of me, and also coming home for now is honouring myself and my feelings,” she explained.
Janet plans to return to Kenya, reconnect with family, and seek therapy in hopes of regaining her “cheerful self.”
Since sharing her story, Janet has been contacted by other Kenyans living abroad who experience similar struggles. Her post resonates with many who silently battle homesickness, emotional isolation, and the pressure to succeed at all costs.
She urges loved ones back home to check in deeply with friends and family abroad, saying:
“Instead of asking for favours, try asking if they are okay.”
Janet’s experience mirrors that of other Kenyans in the diaspora. Many face culture shock, loneliness, and the emotional cost of adapting to new environments.
Stories like Janet’s highlight the need to acknowledge the mental health challenges of life abroad, rather than focusing solely on financial success.
